Debate about being a single parent
The lady in the video discloses some benefits of being a
single parent, which are always neglected by the public. She uses her own
personal experience to proof that being a single mother is not always bad or
negative to the children if the
home situation has lots of conflict. It could let their children stay away from
their arguments or the tension of their instable relationship. Parents are able
to concentrate on the children instead of spending all the time on the flight
with their partners. Children could also see the a healthy and stable
relationship between their separated parents rather than the conflicted
two-parent relationship. She claims that a peaceful living atmosphere and
harmonious home situation provided to the children is the main factor to bring
a pleasure childhood to kids but not the types of family. It is what the public
omitted and misunderstood. By telling her personal experience, she wants to
make her argument more creditable and trustable so that the audiences can
support her ideas and reduce the biases towards being a single parent.
Comment:
1. However,
according to some experts’ surveys, children raised up in single-parent
families are more likely to have the lower educational attainment than
that of those in both biological parents family. Due to the financial
problem, many single parents are complicated to have abundant resources
for supporting their kids in their academia. Also, engaging themselves
in many part time jobs for maintaining their livelihoods, they get less
time to supervise the children’s schoolwork. Many scholars point out
that children from single-parenthood are more likely to drop out of the
high school, less likely attending the college or graduating from
college than that of those from both-parenthood. More worse, many girls
from single-parent family, due to their poor sexual knowledge, take
sexually active and become the never-married mothers at their younger
age. A new generation from single-parent family shows up in the society.
Then, such negative phenomena become a destructive cycle in the
society.
2. @ angie babie :
Only black women
rationalize the breaking up a home to be a "single parent", how about
exercising the choice to not pro create with worthless men! Make that choice
for once. Out of most my friends, I am the only one to choose not to put myself
in a situation to have to parent alone. Get educated and real, my black women!
I see there is a comment specifically points out this is
some black women’s problems. They got into such single mother situation since
they are under educated. Let’s get to the point here, how many of you really
think people falling in love with others or not is matter of how much education
they have? You may argue that getting educated would prevent you from falling
in love with a certain type of people easily. But this single motherhood is not
just problems caused by “worthless men”. a rich, well-educated couple could
have this problem too. Maybe because they just don’t love each other. I agree
that man/woman should brighten your eyes when choosing a partner. But just
don’t bother to say of others with such problem is because they did not have a
few A’s in classes.
3. @ vredd 14 :
I think the choice is
totally up to the parents. But- I think about it like this: do you want your
son or daughter to grow up like this person. Do you want this man to be your
son's role model? Do you want your daughter to grow up and find a man like the one
you chose? As parents we set the stage for our kids..some model exactly what
they see in the home (good or bad). Some do their own thing regardless. Parents
should not say for the kids. Its not. They're happy if you are.
I notice that there is a friendly comment about you should
maybe your choice base on what influence (good or bad). Your partner would
potentially provide to your children. I can completely agree on this point, if
your value is driven from your kids. But my point here is, do not rush to your
decision on breaking up base on some CURRENT negative factors you are facing,
in addition to the consideration above. My dad used to be a perfect husband and
father when I was a little kid. But then due to some business and family
issues, he changed dramatically to someone really negative – hating the world.
Ignoring the duty of the family, fighting with my mom all days, etc. my mother
seriously considered of breaking up with him and raising my up by herself. But
she didn’t do it right away but gave him a change in time of a few years. Then
my dad slowly rebuilt his faith on living and now he is a fine man. Being his
kid, I indeed influenced negatively by his weakness over those years, but I
also learned a lot of good things from his positive side too. I believe that
any man or woman has something good in him/her that no one else has. So try not
to rush to the finale decision if he or she is experiencing some negative
factors right now. Look at the person, is he/she really doing what he/she
usually doing, or just undergoing some downside of life?
4. I
also consider that single parenthood could still bring up the positive
effect to the children. Many experts claim that the contribution of the
children raised by the single parent are not easily down played. Those
children’s the authentic need for assistance would be recognized, then
thus their work and achievement in the future will make them proud. They
would be much more independent and mature than those normal both
parenthood family.
5. I
absolutely agree what you mentioned while the marriage between parents
is healthy and positive, child will probably have a pleasant childhood,
vice verse. As a result, becoming a single parent family from a
both-parents family is not always bad if the home situation has lots of
conflict. It provides the way for children to ease their anxiety once
their parents separate and the conflicts stop. Parent, meanwhile, is no
long spending time on the fights or argument, he/ she is able to
concentrate on the children. For children, they would get a chance to
see a good relationship between their separated parents instead of the
conflicted two-parent relationship.
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